“You’re just super sensitive.”

“Stop overthinking everything.”

“You’re not strong enough emotionally.”

Positive and negative thoughts fight for my attention, and no doubt yours too! Sometimes loudly, and sometimes they whisper just softly enough to let me know they are there.

Damn them.

Feelings of insecurity weigh me down and like everyone I must find ways to deal with them. The life of a writer means lots of alone time, and I need to be at peace with my thoughts. And of course, get out more…lots of catch-ups with the cool people. One proven solution is to cut ties with those that agitate any uneasiness and welcome in the encouragers, the fun crowd, the living!

Maybe my insecurity isn’t all my own fault? Perpetrators can come from all around – a toxic workplace, an anally retentive neighbour, or a random passer-by determined to release some pent-up anger onto me, their actions and words pelting like a wrecking ball to crush my ego, time and again.

Life is too short to entertain the cynics, naysayers and oxygen thieves – there are so many amazing people that without them even knowing it, raise my self-worth and sense of well-being. The insecurity devil perched on my shoulder is ready to take a tumble…

And with a headspace spring clean well underway the hazy fog of gloom lifts and I can see the forest for the trees.  The war is over – guns down, retreat and surrender.

Anyone who is ready to burst my bubble is misguiding their energy. You are wearing the wrong boots – boots that won’t fit you, my friend. My dreams are not yours and your dreams are not mine.  What may seem impossible to you, might just actually work for me…

To keep myself positive, I take positive action; opening doors for the elderly (or anyone really), picking up that $20 dollar note that falls from a bystander’s pocket and handing it back to them – letting a driver into the traffic ahead of me. Promoting good in the world hopefully, means good will come back to me!

Yes, I know the wrecking ball will still swing but with renewed resistance and flexibility, I’ll be better prepared to right myself.

KS x